HerStory: Meet Chelsey

Oh, this girl. She’s pretty amazing.

I’m lucky to claim her as family, we’re cousins-in-law (is that a thing?); she married my step-cousin a few years ago. We live geographically far apart, but stay in touch pretty well through social media.

When I attended my grandmother’s funeral in North Dakota last month, we were able to spend quality time together, and wow, she and her husband David are the real deal. I loved their hospitality, kindness, and honesty. If we lived closer, there’d be some serious hang out time happening.

I’m thankful Chelsey is sharing her story today with so much transparency. She’s come from a place of deep sadness regarding her infertility history and is now using the experience to help bring hope others.

Meet Chelsey.

chelseyWhat is your story summarized in a few sentences?

I was raised going to church, attending Sunday School and knowing about God. It wasn’t until we were dealt some tough blows and tragedy struck our family that my husband David and I began to lean on God wholeheartedly and make changes in our life to grow in our faith. We were married in 2010 and spent the next 3 years struggling to conceive. Through extensive medical interventions (testing, fertility drugs, multiple IUIs and two rounds of IVF) we were blessed with our miracle son, Matthew in 2013. In September 2015, our 14 month old niece McKinley Rae was struck by a vehicle and killed. This loss irrevocably changed every aspect of our family. October 2015, we began the process of adding to our family again. After facing many obstacles; frozen embryos not surviving, medical complications for me, surgery, failed embryo transfers, we found out on May 13th that we are expecting….TWINS!!

What is God teaching you right now?

How to trust in His plan. Even when the hurt seems too great. I have spent most my life trying to put MY plans in action, wondering where God is hiding. I am learning to trust in His plan and ask Him to reveal himself in HIS plans.

What can’t you live without?

My family. I am so lucky to live close to my parents, two sisters and nephews. We spend lots of time together and my sisters are my best friends.

What has your suffering taught you?

Every trial we have endured has brought us to a new place in our lives, strengthened our relationships and grown our faith in God. Of course, we wish that we could have taken a different route, but God knows this was the only way and we have to trust that.

What’s your day job?

I earned my Masters in Social Work and am a Licensed Independent Social Worker. However, I am so blessed to be a stay at home mommy to our 2 1/2 year old son Matthew. He is the smartest little guy and keeps me busy, entertained and challenged! I also spend some time working with my mom, who paints people’s homes.

What are your passions?

Raising my son. Reading. Helping others. Using my story to support women in similar situations. In collaboration with a non-profit, faith based agency, myself and another woman, recently started HOPE (Hold On Peace Exists) an Infertility Support Group for Women. I am excited for the opportunity to provide this resource to the community.

If you could outsource one chore/task, what would it be?

Changing dirty diapers…and potty training!

Reflections on mothering:

Being a mother is the most rewarding, challenging, joyful and exciting task I have been blessed with. And all those emotions occur on a daily basis!

What’s a habit you’d either like to establish or to kick?

I’d like to be more consistent with working out and kick my sweet tooth!

Chocolate or Vanilla?

Chocolate in the form of Reese’s PB cups, Vanilla for ice cream!

Paper or plastic?

Plastic. But I reuse every single bag!

Favorite Song right now?

“Tell Your Heart to Beat Again” by Danny Gokey, anything by Gary Allen. (Yes, I am a hopeless fan, my husband would call me a groupie.)

Favorite verse or quote?

“For I know the plans I have for you” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

“Blessed in the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love Him.” James 1:12

If you had an unlimited budget and a free weekend, what would you do?

Go to Santorini, Greece. We went there on our honeymoon and it was the most idyllic, romantic, relaxing 5 days ever! I would need more than a weekend 🙂

What’s your advice for young women?

Take charge of your health. Ask questions, be your own advocate, trust your instincts. Be confident. Love yourself, Love God and don’t worry about pleasing others.



  1. Sally Hale says:

    Thanks for shaing her story! It’s beautiful. I like her advice- really true.