HerStory: Nicole


Nicole and I met at church and have done a few projects together, but we really got to know each other more this summer when a small group of us did a Bible study called Restless, by Jennie Allen. (Yeah for the intimacy that small groups can provide when people are both real and supportive of each other)!. She’s on the quieter side, and I find her thoughtful responses, wisdom and honesty wonderful qualities and I’m looking forward to getting to know her more! Here’s HerStory.

My story in a few sentences:

I was raised in a Christian home but really came into my adult faith as a freshman in college after rededicating my life to Christ during an InterVarsity Christian Fellowship fall retreat. It was the first time I really saw my faith as something of my own instead of something I did because my parents made me. Shortly after this retreat I changed my major from Clarinet Performance to Information Systems and started dating the man who would become my husband. After graduating from school, my husband James and I moved to Michigan from Chicago to be closer to my parents and start a family. We have 3 children (a son who is 9 and daughters who will be 8 and 6 in October) and I work part time as a software developer.

Three words that describe me: Creative, detail-oriented, intelligent.

The best part of motherhood is: Seeing my children achieve new things. Being loved by my children – unexpected hugs and kisses!

The most challenging part about my life journey: Learning to step back and led God be in control. I really like to plan and be in control and it is very hard for me to relinquish control or not plan for every conceivable scenario. This is something I will probably be working on the rest of my life!

What God is teaching me right now: Relationship skills – how to mother my children better, how to be a better wife for my husband. Also, taking a step-back from myself and seeing how I fit into His bigger plan.

In another life, I’d: I honestly can’t say that I’d want any other life than what I have. With all the difficulties it may bring, I love all the people in my life and can’t imagine changing anything.

Favorite books: I really have more favorite authors than favorite books: Anything by Jane Austen, S. J. Bolton, Laurie R. King (Mary Russell series). There are so many books I enjoy, it’s very hard for me to make a list!

What my faith means in my life: I feel that everything I do is impacted by my faith. How I mother my children, how I address conflict in our home, how I make decisions about what to do – all come back to my faith.

How I serve at church: I serve in the children’s ministry as a teacher. This past school-year I taught the first and second grade class, this year I will probably be teaching the Kindergarten and First Grade class.

My passions: I am passionate about improving things that aren’t working well. In my home, this usually takes the shape of my method of organizing things like closets, our schedules, our routines – trying to optimize things so everything runs smoothly. I really enjoy taking a difficult problem or task and trying to develop a solution for it. I also use this skill frequently in my job.

I can’t live without my: Phone. I organize everything on my phone – my calendar, my grocery list, the menu for the week, kid’s activities, etc.

My day job: I have two day jobs. I am paid to work for Vibrant Software – a company based in California. I work a couple days a week from home developing software for them. My unpaid full-time job is stay-at-home wife and mom!

Things I’m currently working on: I am busy getting ready for the start of the school year! This year all three of my children will be attending school full-time so it’s a bit of a transition in our household. I’m working on planning out what my weeks will look like with the kids gone so as to make the best use of my time.

If I could have a free weekend and an unlimited budget, I’d: Go on a tropical vacation with my husband!

Would you rather go through life with a continual winter or a temperature that never drops below 100 degrees: Assuming I had access to air-conditioning, I would choose the 100 degrees, I think. I hate being cold and during winter, regardless of heat, I feel like I’m always cold.

My health philosophy: I try to keep it simple. Lots of fruits and vegetables, encourage exercise (family walks and bike rides), cook most meals from scratch and pick reasonably healthy options.

My vice: Dark chocolate.

Hobbies: Reading, baking

You’d never know that I: Love to sing, play the clarinet, piano and act! I did a lot of plays and musicals during high school and it is one of the things I miss the most.

Favorite Bible verse: Philippians 4:6-7, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

I hope you’re blessed by reading the stories of women who are both ordinary and extraordinary because of God shining through them!



  1. Great write-up Heidi! Nicole is pretty awesome!